Dealing with Disappointment
dan masden
Life Doesn't Always Work Out Like We Want.
Long story short, I got some bad news last week about a business deal that fell through.It wasn't just any opportunity. It was a significant amount of money that seemingly slipped through my fingers.
I read the email and my hear dropped. I stared at the wall for 10 minutes and my inner critic started speaking loudly.
- "It's never going to work out."
- "Who are you to be an entrepreneur?"
- "You already told your family about how excited you were for this opportunity. Now they are going to realize you SUCK."
I hit my meditation pillow to snap out of my funk. Once I found stillness, I began thinking about all of the times in life where I thought I had failed, only to eventually realize the temporary "no" was the gateway to a much bigger "yes."
Like the time I got fired from my dream radio job in Miami after only 8 months. I thought the universe was punishing me. As it turns out, the next job I took in California was the biggest success of my broadcasting career. There was an added bonus that I made some of the closest friendships of my life on the west coast.
In 2012, I went through a breakup that I thought would destroy me, only to realize being removed from an absolutely toxic relationship was what I needed to start my self-transformation path. The tools I learned are the foundation for my business and allow me to help clients around the globe create massive change.
In 2014, I left a job in Boston where I worked with an amazing team to take a job in Tampa that I ended up hating. The job wasn't a fit, but the city was. I met an amazing girl that I am totally in love with. We just moved in together last weekend and things are awesome. I needed to move south to find it.
We are all super spiritual when our plans come to us on our timetable and in the exact form that we want. Yet, as soon as things don't work out, we think we are victims of a cruel universe that is working against us. But what I've come to realize in my life is that the biggest blessings can be the unanswered prayers.
As my mentor Mastin Kipp says, "A delay is not a denial."
Whatever it is that feels like it's going "wrong" for you right now does not mean you are being rejected. Nor does it mean you are failing. It means you are being guided by a universe that has a much bigger vision for your life than you do.
You may not see the path today, but this is the point of faith. You have to keep believing that things will unfold in divine timing.
In my case, there were times that it took as long as 18 months, but I could always look back and see exactly why the events needed to unfold like they did. I could see that what seemed like a disaster was actually grace.
I am grateful for those temporary setbacks from the past. So it's easier to be grateful for the ones that I face now.
I am choosing to live in gratitude for the business deal that fell through. I believe that whatever is coming next is so much bigger. I can't wait to find out what it is!
What is troubling you today? What is causing you stress? Trust that it's happening "for you" instead of "to you." Let go of the attachment to your specific vision. You are just taking a detour to a more awesome destination.
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Sending you vibes for an awesome week ahead,
Dan
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