I Don't Care What Your Goal Is. Here's Why.
dan masden
Can You believe 2018 is right around the corner?
If you are reading this, I believe you're a person with a desire to elevate your life in the coming year.
Perhaps you want to increase your income...
Or you are ready to leave a soul-sucking job...
You might be ready to find a soulmate relationship...
Or to make this the year you lose the weight and up your self-care game...
Maybe you just want to finally find purpose and build your legacy...
Truth be told, I really don't care what your goals are. As your coach and mentor, I'm more interested in WHY you want to achieve them.
Here's what I have learned to be true. Getting to the next level in life is not easy. It requires vision, planning, and most importantly... implementation.
For many (including myself), implementation can feel the most back breaking because it requires you to take massive action which always stretches you beyond your comfort zone. The cost of entry for leaving your comfort zone and creating momentum is to do the very things which scare you most.
And the only way you will have the determination to consistently show up for your dreams in spite of fear is to find an internal drive that is bigger than just yourself. You need motivation to pick yourself back up each time you stumble and encounter a setback.
As my mentor Mastin Kipp says, you need a prompt for your purpose. And there are really only three things which will give you the leverage to take a leap into the unknown:
Prove the naysayers wrong.
One of the biggest, scariest risks we can take is to speak up and express our vision to the people we value most. What I've found is at best, people won't "get" what you want to accomplish. At worst, they will dismiss you and provide a grocery list of reasons why you can't achieve your goals.
When I left my cushy corporate career to start a coaching business, there were people who thought I had lost my mind. A family member told me life coaching "wasn't a real job." My girlfriend's family (with the best of intentions) sent me career finding books from 1992 so I could slowly build my business as I found another "safe" career in the meantime. As for most of my friends, they looked at me like I was from another planet when I shared my vision.
Can you relate?
However, if you are waiting for the approval of your parents, spouse, or circle of friends before you take the first step, you will waste another year (or five) feeling bored and stagnant in a less than inspiring life where you live to meet everyone else's expectations except your own.
And ultimately... you will prove your doubters right.
Yet, there is another way. You could get radically honest and admit you have always figured out a way to make things work when you have given a task your full energy and use the naysayers as rocket fuel to propel you towards your next level.
No person can believe in your dreams enough to compensate for your own lack of belief in what's possible. It is your responsibility to not only believe in your vision, but make it real.
Take Care of family and friends
"Wait, Mason... didn't you just say we want to prove them all wrong?"
Yes, but at the same time, how could you better show up for your family and friends if you brought your vision to life? How would you provide a better future for the people you care about? Could you help your parents retire? Could you pay off your child's student loans? Could you take your spouse on the dream vacation you had previously thought you could only take if you won the lottery?
What if this was the year you lost the weight? Would you have the energy at the end of the day to be more present with your loved ones? Would a healthier body ext3nd your life expectancy, giving you more years to watch your children and grandchildren grow up?
What if you finally started your business, wrote your book, or left the toxic relationship? Couldn't you make your life an inspiration to others?
Conversely, what happens if you continue to stay stuck? What message are you sending to your kids about what's possible for them? Are you teaching them to settle in their life and not raise the bar?
The decisions you make today will either improve the quality of life for you and those you love, or simply create more of the status quo.
Find a higher mission or calling
In the first 6 months of my business, I struggled to earn more than $2000 per month. As I continued to dip into my savings account to stay afloat, there were days where it would have been easier to give up and go back to corporate America.
Why did I continue to forge ahead? Because I felt pulled by a larger mission to teach people how to stop settling for mediocrity and create a life of authenticity, success, and fulfillment. I saw the statistics and knew 85% of the world was going through the motions like I was and I was determined to be part of the solution.
If my goal was simply about having a robust bank account, I would have given up. I'd be spending my day today feeling increasingly stressed about going back to a job I hated on Monday. When my focus shifted to helping others, it gave me the strength to keep moving forward, even when I didn't see a clear path in front of me.
Now over to you!
Comment below and let me know:
1. What do you want to create in 2018?
2. What is standing in the way of you creating it?
3. Which of the 3 prompts could you use to help you accelerate your success?
I will personally respond to each and every comment. And once I see your answers, I will even use the feedback to create a free training to help you crush your goals in the new year.