Finding that place where you belong
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Does it ever seem like no matter how hard you try, you struggle to find a place where you belong?
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This coaching is for you.
Belonging is a fundamental human need associated with our survival. That’s why Maslow placed it 3rd on his hierarchy of needs.
As children, we’re conditioned to be a good boy or girl and “follow the rules” in order to belong to the tribe, even when the rules tell us things like...
“Children should be seen, not heard.”
“You can’t earn a living doing (insert your life’s dream).”
There’s another set of rules we must follow in order to belong to God (which can often mean hiding or changing who we are).
By age 5, we’re off to school and learn what we must do and how we should look to “fit in” and belong to our peers.
And with every agreement, both the spoken and unspoken ones, we lose a piece of ourselves.
As adults, our careers become the new place we seek belonging.
We pursue jobs that are misaligned with our purpose but make our family proud. We flaunt our success for likes on social media (yet another external outlet to fit in).
We sacrifice our time and health to climb the ladder and get attention from the bosses. We self-suppress and don’t speak up in the office, as to not “rock the boat.”
Each little sell out comes with another reward—praise, promotions, a pay raise, or the upfront employee of the month parking spot.
And eventually, we realize while we technically belong to a family, corporation, religion, or community, it still seems like we don’t belong anywhere.
Because real belonging is created from within.
It’s about being connected to yourself first, then something bigger than yourself.
This is what purpose is.
Finding your sense of belonging requires you to overcome the conditioning of who you were taught to be so you can finally evolve into the person you truly are.
And as you show up authentically as your badass self, you magnetize new relationships with people who love and accept you for who you are, not because you morphed into the person they wanted you to be.
When you belong to yourself, you can create an amazing, amplified career that’s meaningful to your bank account and the world.
More belonging = More love. More impact. More happiness. More income.
If you’re tired of looking for a place to belong, just start by looking in the mirror. Because the truth is the part of you that’s doing the looking is the very thing you’re looking for.
You are enough.